Sunday, April 29, 2012

BYU Women's Conference

I tried to go back and figure out how long I've been attending this conference, and I think the first year I attended was 2003, so almost 10 years, minus one or two when I couldn't make it because of life, babies, money, or something else.  It's a great tradition I have with my Mother and her side of the family with my Aunts and Cousins and Grandma Shipley.  About 5 years ago we started staying in the dorms on campus, rather than with family that lives in the area.  Being on campus has made the experience richer, more memorable, and so much more fun.  It's like a slumber party, and it's great to be in the thick of things on campus at all times.

Here are a few photos and experiences from this year's conference:

Jenna, her mom Suzanne and I at the airport on our way from the desert to the mountains of Utah.  We were giddy with excitement!  :)


The beautiful campus of BYU, and my favorite, Tulips!






The classes I attended were fantastic.  I didn't take very many notes, I was listening while I worked on crocheting a baby blanket for my collection.  I also don't have the best memory so I'll try and share a few things I learned.

My favorite class was one I took called "Meaningful Prayer."  I don't know about you, but prayer is often difficult for me.  I'm not eloquent, I'm afraid I'm praying for the wrong things, I don't ever really hear or recognize the answers, and I've often wondered if anyone was even listening.  Sound familiar to anyone else?

In this class I learned that the Book of Mormon teaches us to pray with a sincere heart and real intent, and that those are two different things.  Being sincere is one thing, but real intent is the key... I intend to act upon the promptings and answers I receive, no matter what they are.  Maybe my prayers aren't answered in my timetable because I don't really intend on doing what I'm supposed to do in order to receive what the Lord wants me to receive.

I also learned that the Lord will teach me what to pray for, so I can get the right answers.  Now I just need to work on the sincerity and intent, and then figure out how the Lord speaks to me so I can hear the answers.  The speaker said once that she got nothing that she prayed for, but God gave her everything she needed.  Maybe the communication with our Father is more important than the questions and answers.

I also learned an important lesson as a mother raising children, you can't pray away someone's agency.  You can pray all you want for your kids to make certain choices, but the Lord can't make that happen... he gave them the gift of agency, it's precious, and he will never take it away.  As I approach the teenager years with my kids, that will be a good lesson for me to remember.

Back to a few photos:  my sister-in-law Jenna brought her mother Suzanne with us this year, and this trip is typically a tradition for the Shipley side of our family (my Mom's side).  My Grandma, Aunts, and Cousins welcomed her with open arms like she was one of us and I had such an enjoyable time getting to know Suzanne better, I am soooo glad she came!  I hope this becomes a tradition for her and her daughter now too!

Three generations of Shipley women.





 Jenna & Suzanne... aren't they adorable?

The other classes I attended were entitled "Trust in the Lord's Timetable", "The Atonement: Our Greatest Hope", "I Can Do Hard Things", and "Lay Aside the Things of the World and Seek for the Things of a Better."  All good topics, right?  And I wrote maybe one or two sentences in my notebook.

I did learn that sadness and dissatisfaction brings the loss of the spirit.  I am often sad and depressed, and I often feel that the spirit doesn't speak to me or abide with me.  It's frustrating because the sadness is frequently not my fault, it's a symptom of a disease.  That was frustrating to hear, but at the same time necessary for me to understand.  I need to make an extra effort, above and beyond those who just need to cheer up a little, if I want the spirit in my life.  The same instructor also counseled us not to refuse to be comforted.  I do that too.  The Lord's timing is perfect, I just need to seek his guidance, accept his counsel, and allow the spirit to comfort me in the process.  Such necessary and vital information for my current circumstances.

One class talked about the stones we carry around in our hearts, stones of anger, sorrow, or resentment.  Sometimes those stones have a specific person's name written on them.  I am currently carrying around two stones with two people's names on them that are filled with bitterness, anger and resentment.  I can't be uplifted or healed until I throw away those stones, and finally forgive.  Those stones, the circumstances that created them, aren't hurting anyone but me.  This is going to be difficult, but I'm willing to try... baby steps.  But the Savior judges perfectly, he knows our hearts (including the hearts of the offenders) and I need to let the Atonement work for me, and for them.

Almost every single teacher in every class, no matter the topic, counseled us to be grateful.  Being thankful of my blessings and opportunities is a gateway to spiritual experiences that I desire to have, and it applies to almost every subject matter and situation.

My Mom

One of the primary reasons I attend this conference every year is to be able to spend 3 days with my Mom. She is my hero, she sets an example for me and I want to be just like her when I grow up.  Her testimony and faith sustain me when mine is weak.  Her love and service lift me up, often times when I feel like no one else in the world cares about my struggles and weaknesses.  Sharing such powerful spiritual experiences with someone that I love so much provides such tender and precious memories that are difficult to share, because there aren't adequate words.  I love you Mom... thanks for talking me into that first conference experiences almost 10 years ago!


While in Provo we had the chance to drive past the old Provo Tabernacle that was destroyed by a fire, and is now being rebuilt as a Temple.  The progress is coming along, and some of the original structure was able to be saved to be a part of the new building.  I thought I'd throw in a couple pictures of that as well.



So that's was Women's Conference this year!  A couple fun highlights, I ran into my husband's Aunt Joy and four of her daughters, some of the funnest cousins that Austin has, I really admire these girls.  I also ran into my sister-in-law Sarah's oldest sister Lisa (say that five times fast!), Carla Meyers an old friend from Junior High, Linda Crandall my Stake YW President when I was growing up, and I got to meet one of my personal heroes, Kris Belcher.  She spoke at the Time Out For Women in Phoenix last year, and I bought her book after that conference.  She is blind so I had to approach her carefully so as not to startle her, but I got to talk with her for a few minutes and tell her what an impact she's had on my life and how I admire her humor, courage, and faith.  That can be checked off my bucket list!  It's fun to leave town and THEN run into people you know from home, especially at such an incredible event as this conference.


I can't wait until next year so we can do this all over again!!!

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Saturday, April 28, 2012

April catch up

There's a few things I missed from April that I want to catch up on, so this post may be a little long.

The kids get free donuts for every A they get on their report cards at Krispy Kreme, and we brought  home a dozen and a half donuts.  The kids were on a sugar high for two days, but we're sure happy about those grades!  They also liked the free hats.

Our newest nephew was born this month, Casen Dale Lawlor, son of Casey & Celeste.  He is absolutely precious and my kids love to hold him and can't wait to teach him everything they know.  Ember never took her turn holding him, but Ben and Grace couldn't get enough, especially Ben.  And of course, whenever we go visit or they visit us, I get a turn first.  Babies are my therapy.

Isn't Austin handsome being so tender?







Our new neighbors have decided that they didn't like the vines that were growing on our shared block wall in our front yard, so they chopped them down on their side.  They didn't consider that the weight and damage to the vines would cause them to collapse on our side, crushing our bird of paradise plant that was planted at the base of the vines.  They apologized and promised to clean the mess up, but the vines are gone.  I'm not sure yet how I feel about that.

Ben went on the Father's and Son's campout this past weekend and had the opportunity to shoot a gun for the first time.  He did great, he made several shots and even hit a target!  We want to go shooting again sometime as a whole family, I've never shot a gun and I would love to.

We saw a rat in one of our citrus trees this month and freaked out about roof rats, which have plagued the valley for many years.  Austin decided our citrus trees needed to be severely pruned as a part of a multi-step process of eliminating any additional threat of rats.  He really butchered the trees, but they needed it so badly.  The only problem now is, how are we going to clean all those branches out of our backyard?



That's the rest of April in a nutshell, except for BYU Women's Conference, which I'll blog about tomorrow.

Spring Sing

The kids performed in their annual Spring Sing this past Wednesday night, and I wasn't able to attend because I was flying off to Utah for BYU Women's Conference (blog post to come).  Austin took pictures and recordings and said the kids did great.  It was especially cool for Ember, as this was her last one.  She completed all seven years at Franklin West Elementary and we're so very proud of her.

Ember looking lovely and almost teenagery.
(yes, that's a word)

Grace had trouble looking.... happy?  Normal?  


Ben was squinting, but otherwise his normal handsome self.


Great job kids, we're very proud of you!

Thursday, April 19, 2012

More picture overload!

Today's favorites are family shots, and then some of just Austin and I.  Those might be my most favorite of all, since he is my most favorite person in the world.  I am so grateful to Noelle for beautifully capturing our expressions, and emotions, and our love for each other.  











Aaaaaand..... my favorites :)  I sure do love this man <3















I swear that's it... there's more, but these are my favorites.  
I really love this family.
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